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Break free from attachment

TODAY’S TIP

Attachment is an energy knot that ties you emotionally and energetically to the past, blocking your Personal Freedom and your capacity to manifest your dreams. Find out how to break it below.

PRIMARY ATTACHMENT

Attachment is first created during your socialization –childhood and youth– when your Primary Identity or primary needs are emotionally linked to a particular belief or set of circumstances.

An example of this would be if you learned from your family’s dynamics that you must sacrifice your own desires to be accepted. In this case you are attached to self-sacrifice.

See below for solutions.

SECONDARY ATTACHMENT

Attachment can also be created later on in your adult life when you give away your Personal Power to another person or conditions. This also ties up your energy chords, holding you hostage of that to which you have given away your power.

The classic example of Secondary Attachment is when you give away your Personal Power to your love partner, believing that you are nothing without him or her. You allow humiliation, betrayal and abuse because of this belief.

It is often the case that below the surface of a Secondary Attachment, you will find a Primary Attachment. In the case above, you may find out in your healing process that there is a childhood belief like the one in the first section, where you sacrifice yourself to be loved.

See solutions below.

SOUL INSULT

Finally, if a piece of your Soul is hidden or stolen by trauma, this also creates an attachment because that part of you cannot grow or move on. It is a prisoner of the set of beliefs, emotions and circumstances that insult or injured it, and it cannot leave the place of hiding.

An example of this is if as a child you were shame at a moment when your mother or father had died. A part of you may have hidden in the coffin with your dead parent in order to escape what you perceived at that time as an injury because you were an orphan.

See solutions below.

SOLUTIONS

Break free from Primary Attachment

To break free from Primary Attachment, you need to practice emotional detachment until you know how to energetically and emotionally remove yourself from certain conditions, gathering your Personal Power onto yourself without fear of losing your Primary Identity. Once you master this tool, then you need to apply to the past, persons or social scripts that you have confused with your Primary Identity or that are keeping you from taking care of your primary needs.

RESOURCE: The Unstuck Yourself and Flourish Home Study Course is an intensive, 3-months work out that helps you detach from the past and assume your Personal Power. Read more.

Break free from Secondary Attachment

To break free from Secondary Attachment, you need to place distance between you and the person or conditions to which you’ve given away your power. Then you begin to retrieve each particular aspect of your Personal Power that you gave away. You also need to nurture your self-love and to parent the Wounded Children behind the Secondary Attachment (in the Primary Attachment beneath it) through Self-parenting.

RESOURCE: The Self-mothering Kit helps you mother your Wounded Children and summon your Warrior Mother to be able to make strong decisions for yourself. Read more.

Break free from Soul Insult

To break free from Soul Insult, you need to go through a Soul Retrieval Journey. This can be done with the guidance of a shaman or healer, a qualified hypnotherapist or therapist. (Ask them if they know about Soul Retrieval or Inner Child work). The Soul Retrieval Journey takes you back in time to the past, helps you find the aspect of your Soul that has been stolen or is hidden and brings it back home to your adult self. There are specific steps and conditions for this process, so please seek qualified help.

After bringing that aspect of your Soul back, you need to cultivate a mothering, unconditionally loving relationship with it until it integrates to the rest of your Primary Identity. You do this by self-mothering.

RESOURCES: I am preparing a Soul Retrieval Online Private Session, so email me to get into the waiting list and I’ll email you when it’s ready. Also look at the Self-mothering Kit.

I hope this helps!

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About Maria Mar

Maria Mar is an author, speaker and ceremonialist poet. She is also a spiritual teacher and an internationally known healer and shaman who helps you to achieve personal freedom, unlock your creative potential and live a life of magic and delight. She offers books, digital products and private guidance, art that heals and transforms as well as performances, speaking engagements and other live and online events to help you become the protagonist of your life and the creator of your destiny. Find out more at Catch the Dream Express.

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You have no defects!

TODAY’S TIP:

A lot of us look at our limitations and emotional wounds as defects. This makes us ashamed, encourages self-judgment, diminishes self-love and makes us avoid looking into those Breaking Points that keep us stuck.

Here’s some great news from the secrets of Shamanic Hunters.

Your wounds are NOT defects.

They are your Personal Power. You heard right.

Your Breaking Points are created by you during your Domestication stage (childhood and youth) by using your Personal Power. But you use these powers from a learned place of fear.  And you use them in ways that have been modeled for you, which may have been disfunctional.

Instead of avoiding delving into these wounds or limits, go ahead, plunge into them and discover the underlying fear. Beneath it you will find the learned belief that fuels that fear.

Once you do this, you can detach from those old habitual responses. Doing this frees your Personal Power so that you can focus it in the manifestation of your best potential.

This is why spiritual teachers say that you have the power to make Medicine from your Wounds.

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The Seed of your Success

TODAY’S TIP

The seed of your success was planted at birth. It is not in what you do, have, get or achieve. It is in the Essence of who you are and what you share with the world. You are a born success!

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Success right now-no1

TODAY’S TIP:

Right now! Your success is a seed inside you that carries your Unique Essence and its gift to the world. Are you feeding or starving it RIGHT NOW?

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You ARE success

TODAY’S TIP:
Success is something you are, feel and create every day,
not just the results you are looking for.

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Why can’t I get motivated?

Why can’t I get motivated?

By Maria Mar(c)2010

Why can’t I get motivated? Elizabeth asked me.

There are two different scenarios for depleted motivation: temporary and chronic.

I’ll cover the first one in this blog and the second one in a second blog, so stay tune. (Subscribe to this blog to get my weekly articles. Click the button to the upper right corner.)

Here’s the list of probable issues that are causing your de-motivation. To see the solutions, see the second section, below.

Temporary lack of motivation

If you are suffering from a temporary lack of motivation, then you are usually motivated, but find yourself in a motivational slump. Here are the causes that may be causing this slump.

1.   Overwork. If you are burn-out, your body is depleted of energy. Your momentum slows down and your motivation suffers.

2.   Taking too many ineffective actions. When your actions do not bring results, there is no renewal to the emotional energy you are using to generate them. Lack of results is like lack of food.

3.   Plans and goals are not in harmony with your Purpose. Your path is not clear. The goals, plans or strategies you’ve laid out are not truly satisfying you. They may not be what your Soul desires or they may not be in harmony with your Life Purpose.

4.   Doing too many difficult things for too long. Change is hard work. When you are changing the way you think, act and live, you are creating new pathways in your brain. This takes energy and it can take a toll in your passion.

5.   Working hard without giving yourself rewards. If all you do is work, and you give yourself nothing to recognize the value of your work, then you are an oppressive boss to yourself. Your own “employees” are going to slow down and sabotage the enterprise.

6.   Doing too many things you don’t like. Every project, whether it is personal or professional, has exciting, fun, creative things that you like to do and things that don’t like that much. If you are doing too many of the later and not enough of the things you like, you are killing your motivation.

7.   Not receiving the results. Sometimes you expect certain results, but you get others instead. If you do not receive the results you get, because they are not the ones you expected, then you are repelling success. You are trying to control the flow of life, and rejecting the blessings life brings. You are depleting your own life force by placing a dike of limited expectations.

8.   Feeling alone and abandoned. Have you asked for help? Have you engaged other experts to collaborate, guide or support you in your work? Have you shared your achievements, no matter how small, with your friends? If not, then you are trapped in the trance of Orphanhood. How can you be motivated?

9.   Toxic environment. Are you surrounded by people who diminish your value, pressure you into betraying your dreams or constantly criticize or disbelief your goals? An environment that does not nurture your self-esteem and your dreams is toxic to your motivation.

Solutions

1.   Overwork. Take a week or at least 4 days off.  Get up late, go to bed early and take a nap. You should sleep at least 10 hours and rest at least 2 more. Spend at least one hour a day in nature. For women, being close to running water and walking barefoot on the earth renew our energy. Trees are powerful healers. Walk among them. Do things you like; alone and with your friends. Ask your Inner Child what she wants to do and then go have fun. When you regain energy and reconnect to the reason why you are doing what you are doing, the motivation will come back.

2.   Taking too many ineffective actions. Your External Actions in the world are not working because there are hidden interferences “unweaving” what you weave, like the Myth of Penelope. You need to take Internal Actions to release the hidden interferences. Join my “I Want to Flourish” Fiesta to find free knowledge and resources.

3.   Plans and goals are not in harmony with your Purpose. You need to stop your hectic doing and go within to listen to your Soul. You may be following Borrowed Dreams or Distorted Dreams. You need to go back to center in order to find your true path. Pre-order (or order) my novel. It will take you on a journey to heal this.

4.   Doing too many difficult things for too long. You need to live in balance. Schedule fun, rest and pampering into your calendar. Balance difficult tasks with easy tasks. Give yourself time in the movies, a walk in the park and extra sleep during difficult jobs.

5.   Working hard without giving yourself rewards. Reduce the number of tasks in your daily to-do list. Make sure you do the recommendations in the previous point. Buy some bright stars stickers and stick one at the end of each done task. At the end of each day, give yourself a round of applause and declare your accomplishments proudly. When you finish a project or achieve a goal, give yourself a great reward. Stop trying to do everything better. Value yourself and every little thing you do.

6.   Doing too many things you don’t like. Balance your daily work by doing one thing you don’t like early in the morning followed by two things you love to do. Get or hire help to do the things you hate and the things that you are not good at.

7.   Not receiving the results. When you send things into the world, open your mind and release the outcome. Receive every positive result that comes back. Open your heart and receive it in the knowledge that Life Mother knows better, and that Divine Design is at work. You will see how this seemingly insipid result multiplies its blessings in the future, better and farther than you could ever imagine.

8.   Feeling alone and abandoned. Find your place of belonging with like-hearted people who support you. Ask your supportive friends for help. If you are unused to asking for help, you probably do not even see how others can help you. That’s your Orphanhood leading your life. You are not alone. Make an effort to find ways in which your friends can help you. Share your dreams with positive friends. Celebrate your goals with a party, dinner out or picnic.

9.   Toxic environment. Examine how you invite, allow or are hooked with toxic people. Find memberships or communities of like-minded people who are seeking similar things. Get a mentor or coach. Avoid people who drain you or diminish your trust in your capacity or your dream, even if they are family. See them less, do not talk about your dreams or goals with them and place strong limits that disallow any negative comments. It may be tough at first, but they’ll eventually know not to step past your limits.

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Your Unique Essence

TODAY’S TIP:

What is your Unique Essence? Name three core qualities that
describe who you are, even when you are not doing something. As long as you are breathing, these qualities are streaming in you and touching others. Here are mine. Freedom. Art. Magic. You are welcome to share yours here.

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Maria Mar is an author, speaker and ceremonialist poet. She is also a spiritual teacher and an internationally known shaman who helps you to break through the hidden interference to your success, to unleash your Greatness and manifest the life of your dreams. She offers books, digital products and coaching, art that heals and transforms as well as performances, speaking engagements and other live and online events to help you become the protagonist of your life and the creator of your destiny. Find out more at Catch the Dream Express.

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